Maybe it's even bigger than that. Maybe you are holding on to a way of being because you are afraid of being different than you were raised because you don't know how your friends/family would treat you (accept you). Or you don't know who you would be if you let go of those beliefs and chose something that feels more true for you. Or maybe you just don't know how else to be - so you stay in your misery hoping someone will tell you how else to be. Here is the thing, you are always supported and their is always love available for you. The first place to look is within yourself.
You are incredibly powerful, your words, your thoughts, your feelings create your inner (body/health) and outer (world) environments. You get to choose how to interact with this world. If something isn't going right for you in your life, look at yourself in the mirror and ask, "What do I need to change? What can I let go of now?" Bullying yourself, bullying your way through life is exhausting. Others will follow your lead in how you treat and view yourself; therefore the best thing you can do for your life right now is to be honest, vulnerable and in love with yourself. Then you give everyone else permission to be that way for themselves and to be that way with you.
When you actively chose to let go of something and open to other possibilities your life, your relationships and your health will change. How willing are you to be what feels good, right and true to you? What if it means letting go of some friends, a job, a relationship, etc? Are you still willing? I know that if you do that for yourself - whatever it takes I chose to be me - your life will change in ways you haven't even thought of yet.
Maybe this year your resolution is to discover what being me is all about, how does being ME really feel and look? Here's to the BEST of YOU! You are amazing and powerful, live it up in FULL LOVE (for yourself first :) ).